There are no quick and easy answers to overcoming depression. If you are hoping that I’ve written one in here than you might as well stop reading now. Because you won’t find one.
I suggest you stop trying easy fixes for mental health issues or worse yet, ignoring your mental health issues altogether. Make it a daily personal goal to make sure your past mistakes don’t become your future problems. But how do you achieve this goal?
Start by being honest with yourself over the state of things in your life. How much longer do you want to engage in negative behaviors that are increasing your mental health issues? If you spend your time engaging in negative behaviors, then you will never get around to seeking true solutions. And that’s often when things often go from bad to worse.
I want to help you get your head above the dark clouds of the quagmire of your problems. And to find solutions to at least some of your life’s problems.
Mental health issues spill over into other health issues, as well. So, it’s best to solve your issues as completely as possible as early in your life as is possible.
Don’t settle for putting a “band-aide” solution over your mental / emotional “wounds.” Quick and easy solutions rarely work and usually exacerbates the problem even more.
Take an honest hard look at your life and ask yourself, “How long do I want to keep living this way?” Any bad decision can be solved by you taking the lead and correcting your path.
When I was in the deep part of depression, I knew that I couldn’t help myself. And I also knew that I couldn’t trust some of my own decision making. I didn’t like the answers I was getting from my husband Jeff either. Way before he and I met and married, he had developed a bad habit of arguing over “how white salt is” style of communication. Not helpful.
When life was on an “even keel” then we did things with our three daughters and life was good. But those times didn’t last long enough. So, we went to marriage counseling.
A good counselor will offer communication tools that are helpful. A better counselor will show you how to utilize those tools. Through the years we’ve had a few of each kind. Plus, I’ve gone to individual counseling.
Today I take a serotonin boosting supplement called tryptophan. I stay in counseling about twice a month. Many times, Jeff goes with me. We’ve both learned how to strengthen our support system by speaking into each other rather than at each other. There’s a big difference between the two types of communication.